How blame keeps us safe but also keeps us stuck. 

In a recent Rising Vibrational Scale survey, we gathered feedback around emotional wellbeing. We asked people to share with us the range of emotions that they have been experiencing, using the scale as a guide. In addition to this we asked them to tell us what would help them to feel better. 85% of people shared that they needed something outside of their control to change, so that they could feel better. Only 15% focused on how they could manage their emotions to help them feel better. 

This reinforces our belief that we prefer to blame things outside of us when we don’t feel good. Of course we can be negatively impacted by external situations, events and other people, but blaming them is one sure way to remain stuck. Taking responsibility for our own contribution to any given situation is the only way to REALLY feel better. 
 

Discovering the impact of social pain. 

We are working with many clients totally committed to supporting the wellbeing of their teams, and doing their best to enable a culture that provides emotional support to both women and men, yet there is still an extortionate amount of social pain (e.g. isolation, fear, disconnection, lack of influence, feeling misunderstood and not heard) impacting all the obvious metrics around absenteeism, presenteeism and work related stress. 

Mental Health First Aid is a great initiative, but is not even touching the sides in some organisations.